Her house has an open air allure A quiet place to relax and chill


Never make your home in a place. Make a home for yourself inside your own head. You’ll find what you need to furnish it – memory, friends you can trust, love of learning, and other such things. That way it will go with you wherever you journey. —Tad Williams

Sometimes home is a safe haven people use to separate themselves from the stresses of their jobs . A plae to enjoy a quiet cigarette, chat with friends online and momentarily chill out from the demnds of the job.

We all tend to define a home as a physical structure composed of four walls and a roof. It suggests permanence and a place one can return to time and again to protect oneself against the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune that life hurls our way.

Many times home is a concept that we carry around with us in our hearts and minds as we are at work performing a necessary task that will pay the bills, guarantee we have a roof over our heads and food, clothing and shelter for our family.



This is really no laughing matter Cell phone theft concerns user



Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.— Stephen Covey

The saleslady in the mattress department of this nationally recognized department store described the price of this mattress set as a “real steal”. It eventually turned out that I was the one actually robbed by one member of the two-man  delivery team. Not that funny a situation for me for sure.

Some moments in life are truly comedic and deserve a well earned guffaw. A person falling on an icy sidewalk, getting hit with a cream pie in the face or catching someone in an unexpected humorous situation could be a cause for laughter.

Other times in life the term “funny” connotes causes for concern because the situation tears away at the very fabric of a society’s notions of right and wrong. The peculiar aspects of a situation make it more a cause for concern than a moment of humor.

I recently purchased a new mattress and box spring set from a well-known department store.My older setup was over 20 years old and the comfort level had plummetted to an all time low. It was definitely time to make the move and invest in a new sleep arrangement.

Afer  taking my time and testing  a number of “sleep comfort” mattresses I finally found one to my liking. It was a super soft unit that was comfortable and easy on my aching back and pocket book.

The salesperson assured me that it was a fantastic bargain as it was being sold at half price. This was “a real steal” she told me. I took the bait and bought the ensemble.What a great deal I thought at the time. She told me  it would be delivered in one week’s time.

The delivery date had to be extended a few days as the store had run short of the product. I was forced to sleep on the uncomfortable unit for one more week.

The store’s two-man delivery team rang my suite’s buzzer at 8:20 a.m. on a sunny Friday morning. The driver brought the mattress and the box pring down the stairs and into the bedroom. He removed the old material and then he and his co-worker went to work setting up the bed stand, box spring and mattress. 

The sales rep at the store had asked me what I was going to do with the old mattress set. I told her I would need the material removed from the suite. Since I had used my charge card there would be “no delivery charge” for the service however the removal of the mattress and box spring would be charged a fee. 

I had asked her about the steel bed stand. What was I to do with that?  She told me that “officially” the drivers did not remove it from the suite. But, she assured me that for “$20 or $30” they would gladly do the job for me. It seemed like an act of extortion at the time but I had no other way to get rid of the contraption. 

I told the driver that I needed the frame removed and he told me that this was not a job they did. I offered him $30 as the store salesperson had advised me to do. He asked me “would the store have to know about this?” I assured him no. He smiled, quickly palmed and pocketed the money and removed the item. I was relieved.  

By 8:35 a.m. the two men left the suite bidding me a good day and reminding me to save the wrapping material for two weeks in case I changed my mind. There was no way was I going to return this much needed mattress set.

Two days later on Sunday morning I was going to the grocery store and could not locate my cell phone that I always left on top of the dresser in the main bedroom. I searched around the room, in my jacket and pant pockets and inside the car but to no avail. It was gone.It was in the room when the delivery people were in there assembling my bed.

I then contacted my cell phone provider and asked them to disable my missing cell phone. The agent assured me that this would be done immediately. I exhaled a sigh of relief. He then  informed me that some charges were made on the cell phone — three on Friday ( local calls ) and one major call on the Saturday afternoon around 4:30 p.m. The charge for this call was $78.

I was flabbergasted. I had assumed that one of the delivery men had mistakenly taken my cell phone by mistake. I gave that person the benefit of the doubt..innocent until proven guilty. However the useage charge of $78 persuaded me to think differently. I was robbed by the folks I trusted.

I filed an official robbery report with the police and telephoned the store to have them check with their delivery department to see if they could contact the people who had assembled my bedroom unit.

To date there has been no reply from the store and the police report is pending acceptance as a possible investigation. Taking the action I did to disable the use of my cell phone hopefully saved me from being charged a bundle of cash.

I now caution everyone to remove all valuable possessions, wallets, purses, credit cards and even personal medications whenever unknown workmen are in your home. If possible maintain a minimal amount of contact with them as they perform a service for you.

The simplest item you own can prove irresistible to a person set on stealing from you. Beware. Be wise. Be smart.




You are the Yin to my Yang Sharing life on a cosmic level


“The dance between darkness and light will always remain— the stars and the moon will always need the darkness to be seen, the darkness will just not be worth having without the moon and the stars.” C. JoyBell C.

Someone to lead positively inspires the more doubtful side of our human nature to follow. Day follows night. Despair to hope.Sickness to physical and spiritual health and well being. 

Two forces in the universe, according to a Chinese theory: yin is the passive, negative force, and yang the active, positive force.

Soul mates or kindred spirits help us trhough the rough edges we encounter in our daily lives. They are naturally occuring entities but you must be aware of and accept thier existence and influence in your life. When you believe you will see and not the opposite.

According to this theory, wise people will detect these forces in the seasons, in their food, and so on, and will regulate their lives accordingly.

At one time or another in our lives we play both the Yin and the Yang role and benefit from both. It is both a giving and a receiving relationship. 



“Flangiprop!” – the ideal expletive Some things leave you speechless


“I’d like to go out in the front yard and shout something. “None of this is worth it!” That’s what I’d like people to hear.”   ― Raymond Carver, Elephant And Other Stories

What would be the first word you would utter if you returned to your vehicle after a leisurely lunch and discovered that the driver’s side door to your truck was blocked by a barrier of branches, dead leaves and dry twigs. 

I think shouting “flangiprop” at the top of your lungs would be the politically correct word to use in the above scenario especially if you are seeing red and fuming at the other driver’s discourteous behavior.

There are many more expletives a person could resort to using but there may be young children in the immediate vicinity  and you really don’t want your verbal outburst of anger to infect them negatively.


I suppose you could use a Star Trek Klingon swear word to vent your anger but again a young fan of the television series  might be articulate in the arcane vocabulary and then start ranting and raving in that language the next time an annoying situation develops.


You could also use the Battle Star Galatica swear word “frack” but then you would be revealing yourself yo the world as a grandparent who is trying desperately to not blow your top. Afterall this series with Lorne Greene debuted in the 1970’s and who really wants to be labelled a senior these days in the age of Botox, viagra and face lifts.

In the final analysis using the word “flangiprop” to vent your anger is just as effective as the other cuss words but more politically correct.  It might be a good idea to erase the other five letter words of choice ( !&*$@/?) from your dictionary once and for all and create your own code word to cover these anoying situation.

Do you over use a particular cussword to vent your spleen? Invent a new one. It may be time.



Limits, boundaries and dividers Some serve to protect workers


“Most people come to know only one corner of their room, one spot near the window, one narrow strip on which they keep walking back and forth.”Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

Maintenance workers at a local mall are suspended 40 feet up in the air via an extended  hydraulic crane’s arm work cautiously on a protective platform. Their walking space is extremely limited but their skill at performing such a task at this height is evident. 

Buildings after a certain amount of time require maintenance and updating.Attractive outdoor marquees and logos eventually succumb to the ravages of weather and exposure to the elements. When this happens employees are needed to perform the facelift.

This two-man repair crew( see insert)  worked efficiently and safely while being suspended high in the sky above a local mall’s parking lot area. The weather this day was sunny and the worker’s experience and skill at working at such heights evident as they went about their work tearing down an old theater marquee ravaged by time .

This behind-the-scenes operation places the employees at great risk for personal injury and death but their training, experience and trusting their equipment to protect them from harm enables them to complete the task confidently.



A childhood experience revisited A lively walk with mom in rain


“It’s so strange how life works: You want something and you wait and wait and feel like it’s taking forever to come. Then it happens and it’s over and all you want to do is curl back up in that moment before things changed.” Lauren Oliver, Delirium   

On a recent rainy Saturday afternoon a young girl and her mother were walking down the street heading to a nearby market. The mom used an umbrella to keep dry. The youngster , wearing her galoshes, didn’t mind the rain at all. It was their personal adventure and she was oblivious to the weather.

Many times in life the simplest of childhood experiences are the ones that are remembered most. They make the greatest impression on a young mind. They are important stepping stones to a youngster’s healthy development.

On this one afternoon a mother and her young daughter were out for their Saturday afternoon trip to the market. The weather did not dissuade them from making the trip and the little girl enjoyed the experience of accompanying her mother on this day despite the weather.

Moments such as this are always remembered and help us appreciate the fact that many innocent moments in our childhood should be celebrated now and again.They are an important part of the life cycle.



Childhood ends but caring begins Parents must refocus their goals


“Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands.” Anne Frank


This concerned and caring mother showers love, care and attention on her young charge. The child’s older sister started school and was escorted to the back door entrance before classes began. 

As adults we all are able to remember the care, attention and fussing our parents lavished on us as we were growing up. At times as children we viewed their concerns as an interference on our freedoms.  Other times their intervention was necessary to ensure our personal health and safety. 

Reflecting back on those halcyon days when we were the apple of our parents caring eyes helps us to remember that a parent’s love for us never ends and that they are still people we can count on to help us through difficult times of stress, pain and personal grief. We secretly miss that protected and innocent time in our busy adult lives.

When we mature, leave home and have our own children and familial concerns we realize that we are now stepping into our parents shoes as caretakers responible for our own family unit. Then we finally realize the many difficulties our parents faced when we were growing up. It is a personal epiphany in which we realize all the sacrifices they made for us.Those were the days.

In our new parental role we as parents must also realize that too much intervention into our youngsters lives can affect them negatively and retard their personal growth process. Mother love can morph into a situation of smother love. There is a definitive line between too much caring and not enough. It is a decision each parent must make for themselves. 

The woman in the photo above stood at that very spot the entire morning until the infant’s sister left the school from her morning session. It was a sunny autumn morning and this mother apparently believed she must remain at her designated spot should her services be required. 

This behavior continued during the first week of the new school year. The warm sunny weather enabled the nanny to watch over her two charges.

Sometimes too much of a good thing is really not required.